There is a false binary embedded in mainstream culture: that “vanilla” sex is inherently ethical, and BDSM is morally suspect. But ethical sex has never been about style. It is about intention, awareness, and presence. A performative “yes” given in a moment of emotional pressure is not ethical, even if no rope touches the body. And a submissive begging to be used, within negotiated bounds, is not unethical, even if she kneels with her mouth open and tears down her cheeks. Pre

In every ancient culture, there was an understanding — spoken or unspoken — that to bind someone by the neck was not simply to restrain them. It was to name them. To own them. To say, this one belongs. Long before the modern collar became a fetish object or a lifestyle symbol, it was something else entirely. In the medieval world, iron collars were used to mark slaves, criminals, and prisoners of war. In religious orders, the collar became a sign of service and submission to